Cure Of Conformity

I grew up hearing the rich old saying, “Do as I say not as I do”; not to mention if I asked why I would hear, “BECAUSE I SAID SO!!!“. I am sure I’m not the only one. Often times when these things were said the adults saying them were doing the exact opposite. On the other hand, some of those following these rules interestingly enough do not know why these standards were put in place or who put them here. Yet, they follow the rules set in place because it was something passed on to them and “that’s just the way it is”. In our community it is as though we conform to just about anything; whether it makes sense or not. Some may see it as not being that serious while others make jokes about it either as venting, passing time, getting attention, likes, or whatever may have you. However, we enforce things that may be tearing down our community little by little destroying the structure and dignity that we have left; without even realizing it.

* What is conforming? What exactly are we talking about?*

Conform: comply with rules, standards, or laws.

  • Behave according to socially acceptable conventions or standards.

It can be uncomfortable being the odd one out. It makes others uncomfortable as well. Often times when we make others uncomfortable it is voiced in an unpleasant manner. Sly remarks may be made followed by sarcastic questions; with little desire to want to know the truth.  There may even be a moment where we are sent on a guilt trip with all the reasons why we shouldn’t be so different. Often times we begin to conform because we “don’t want to hear anybody’s month.” We are conforming to make others comfortable again. Why is that? We may feel out of place when we are simply trying to be ourselves around other people. That is okay. The environment may not be one you prefer or the vibe is off. Perhaps we actually are out of place; maybe we aren’t meant to be around certain people. The moment we give in and conform we are suppressing a huge part of ourselves to satisfy others. How do you feel when you conform for other people? When we disown a part of who we are our personalities and attitudes towards life begin to feel forced. Almost as though we are trying to convince ourselves this false since of self is who we really are. While everyone around you loves this version of you. How do you really feel? Do we even like the person we have altered ourselves into being? Often times we are fooled into becoming someone we truly do not like. There is always a promise of more friends, business opportunities, or a better way of living. However, have we ever stopped to ask who created this standard of living and being? Many times we are forced to choose between being what others want us to be and who we truly are. Often at the expense of losing friends and “luxurious” life. And it all boils down to what makes you happy.

We are all under this impression that to have friends and make it in life we have to fit in the same box as others. However, that isn’t the case. Standing out is a good thing. Being unique is what makes us special. Each of us is created different to perform many different tasks. We are the same yet different in a variety of ways. Conforming taints the soul and suppresses who we are within; causing us to forget who we are. Creating this false sense of self to satisfy others detaches us from self; in turn forcing a part of us to die. We slowly become dependent on others to validate us. Once we need validation from other people begin to feel entitled to our space, time, energy, and personal life. We lose time to ourselves caused by others wanting a piece of us by the second. Moments to our self are filled with things we really may not be up to doing. We forget that it is okay to do somethings alone because most activities are done in a group. Having a different perspective on things may be seen as taboo or taken personal; due to others telling you how you should feel about things. Agreeing to disagree may not be a option because opposing opinions may not be heard or respected. Group thinking becomes the name of the game. We have all been told at some point the great things that come from belonging to some type of group. Often times it is suggested that we should be a part of something to: enhance our chances of being a better person, keep us motivated, create an identity, and add to our sense of self. In a sense, it is almost as though being a part of group adds value and meaning to our lives. While all of this may be true to some degree; there is always a chance of conforming to a way of life that we may end up resenting down the road.  Everyone longs to feel as though they are not the black sheep or odd man out; to have a sense of belonging.  And sometimes these feelings place us in a world of trouble in some way, shape, or fashion. We may find ourselves a part of a team, organization, group, or crew for many reasons. Is this wrong? Of course not; If we have knowledge of self-beforehand. Without knowledge of self we lack an identity; our own identity. This causes us to lack self-expression; from thinking and speaking for ourselves to lack of creativity.  We allow ourselves to become molded into what others want us to be due to the fact that we do not know who we are. Often times when we take on the persona that was given to us we begin to feel important. We then have an “image” to uphold. When we hold on to the image that was given to us we willingly throw away our intuition at the cost of being accepted. It is often easier to suppress who we are rather than to hear others talk about you.

When making an attempt to be authentic people applaud us for being brave without know how hard it truly is. Many times it means being the butt of people’s jokes, being excluded from things, or even being sent on a guilt trip.  However, knowing that others will always have something to say about you no matter what you do or say is grounds enough to be apologetically you. No one can fault you for being who you are at all times. There was a quote I ran across many months ago that keeps me grounded in my truth.

“When a person is seen freely living their truth it reminds others of their chains”

Forgetting who we are and conforming to things we truly do not understand or agree with sucks us into a world that isn’t for us. It is important to be stingy with our time, space, and energy to protect and in many cases save ourselves. Aside from physically being involved in social groups that enforce stereotypes; the very thing directing and redirecting societal norms is social media. Many if not all of us walk around with our heads down as we indulge in our many phone apps. I often call social media a blessing and a curse do to the fact that if we are not careful a single notification can rule our lives. Every now and again it is important for us to unplug ourselves from the world and tune into ourselves. If we charged our bodies mentally, physically, and spiritually as much as we charged our devices imagine how different the world would be. Social media directs the wave of what’s hot and not. We find ourselves living for the media; putting up an image for likes that we may not necessarily like. Or on the other hand going the extra mile to be something we really aren’t comfortable with. Many times we put so much of ourselves out there that we have nothing left to save for ourselves. This may be done because we feel we have to show it to prove “it”.

In all things, if something feels forced leave it. Many times there are levels in life that lead up to us conforming in some way. This happens because without realizing it we ask for things to manifest in our lives.  A little preventive care could be weighing our options to find a better way of doing things. Even if it takes a day or less to do so take that time. Another mindful practice to carry with us is asking “What resignations with me?” In this we find what makes us happy, puts us at peace, and sets our soul on fire. Seeking guidance in our everyday life leads to those moments in life where we do not have to question our next decision or if we “fit in” because; it all will feel natural.  When we stop forcing situations we will begin to flow into our destiny.

 

Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose 

 

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When Emotions Run Rampant (Checks and Balances)

Normally we see or hear the term ‘”Checks and Balance” we automatically think of our government and how the system is regulated. Checks and Balances are used to ensure that no one branch of our government has too much power. To ensure this each branch has to answer or is constrained by the other two in some way. The best example of this is our president because he/she can not make laws. He/she can pass or veto laws passed by congress. However, congress can override a veto with two-thirds vote of both houses. Also the supreme court can declare a law passed by congress unconstitutional. This system was created to ensure our government does not run rampant with crazy bills and laws to over use their power.    

* Where exactly has this gotten us in today’s society * 

What if we had a checks and balances on our emotions? Many of us (if not all) are at war with our egos. We find ourselves trying to balance between good and bad, pettiness and letting things go, following our dreams and remaining stagnate, etc. Perhaps, something is holding us back. What are you emotionally invested in? Everything we give our all to may not be worth it. We often have to be selfish with our time, energy, and space. When we start to realize certain things no longer benefit us it is okay to let it go. The question we can ask ourselves more often is, “Is it Hurting or Helping me”. When we take a step back to reflect on those things our honest answer will indicate what we truly need to do. If something cost us our peace it is too expensive. When we find ourselves in situations we can not control yet we some how end up more affected than others; our peace is at stake. This is when we should do a little checks and balancing. In creating a checks and balance we may find the very thing we were emotionally invested in is of zero importance. Some of us may dismiss the very important term,  “Where your mind goes you go.”  Thinking negatively all the time can manifest itself into our daily lives. The more we think about a situation; creating more situations in our minds that may never happen out of anger may cause us to create a bigger issue. Often times we forget we create our bad experiences with our mentality alone. Another great way we can create a checks and balance for ourselves is by simply noticing the energy you carry with you. Direct your attention periodically to your emotions and how you feel when you are completely happy in comparison to when someone or something has made you upset. When negative thoughts try to infiltrate our minds it is our job to counter balance them with a positive affirmation.Checking our emotions daily helps us to not only be accountable for feelings as well as our actions. It also allows us to compare situations and evaluate why we maybe feeling the way we are.

A practice I try to remain on top of is welcoming in all the thoughts that may fill my head. Good or bad; once something negative comes to the surface I think of the good that happened around that time. If nothing good took place I reflect on the good that came from that situation. The moment our thinking process shifts to positive reinforcement we receive positive affirmations.

*However, I am fully aware certain situations require a second party to be checked as well. *  When it comes to energy we can carry other peoples energy throughout the day, week, month, and even years depending on our connection to that person. We can transfer our energy onto others with something as simple as a comment or look. As crazy as it may sound it does not have to be as complex. When someone rubs us the wrong way they have just given us their negative energy. Once someone insults us we immediately are upset with them and offended; subconsciously we begin to examine ourselves in a negative light. The very minute we take something someone says personal we become vulnerable to that persons energy.  When we are insulted it is a choice. We do not have to take what someone says to heart; once we do so we willing taking their negative energy. We have no choice in the matter of when someone will try reflect their negative energy, misfortunes and ways of thinking on us. However, we do have a choice whether to acknowledge, process, and receive it or not to. The only thoughts we should acknowledge are our own.  When we choose to knowledge those who have insulted us it is important to ask ourselves, ” Does this deserve a remark?”  or “Is this worth my time and energy?” The best reaction is no reaction; the best response is no response. There is power and silence and stillness. Another thing we often dismiss is Universal Law. For every action this is a reaction; a chain of events will occur within the universe off of our one small misjudgment.  Overstanding that we do not always have to read someone their rights and be their instant karma because knowing the universe will work that out is a divine gift in itself. Our egos may tell us to handle it now; do not let them get away with what they have said or done to us.  However, we shouldn’t always give others the satisfaction. Is it really worth the extra baggage that may come after?

When talking about ego we are referring to what we are consciously thinking about at all times. Our ego is our sense of self, self important, and self esteem. We normally see people refer to our egos as our lower self. In hindsight that may be true; however there is only 1 whole self we merely vibrate at different frequencies. When we see or hear someone say, “your lower self or higher self” they are referring to your level of frequency you may be giving off in that moment. Our egos often times puts us in a situation that may cause us to have a low frequency moment. * Think of it as stooping to someones level* We often find ourselves in a tug of war when it comes to our emotions. Not knowing how to address something, someone, not knowing how to feel about things, and how to let go. These are battles we deal with internally between ego and soul. Often times we have to do a little ego check.  Our negative thoughts are our egos bringing up things past and present that we may have thought we were over. Putting scenarios in place and playing out how we “should” handle them. Checks and balances come in to play when we try to make the conscious effort to tame our egos and vibrate on a soul level. We begin to evaluate why we are hung up on particular things. Many times those situations may not be relevant to where we are currently. Operating on a soul level will not put our ego to death. However, it will allow us to put to death things that consumed us in a negative manner; things we obsessed over and couldn’t like without. We wouldn’t be focused on how we appeared in the eyes of others. We would have a healthy balance, knowing what truly matters to us;  how to pick and choose our battles. Also giving ourselves space and time to find out who we are. We can not put our egos to death but we can allow our souls to guide our egos. Taming the ego and feeding the soul  is a recipe for vibrating at our highest frequency daily.

Balancing the ego with the soul is acknowledging and balancing the good and the bad about ourselves. We are taking a look into who we are and deciding what is worth holding onto about ourselves and what we need to do away with. This may vary from people to habits depending on what is connected. Taming our ego is shedding light on those dark spaces within that can be used for good instead of blocking blessings. Our ego can be that thing that pushes us to be a better person when we get a handle on who we truly are. Every now and then we all need our ego stroked; by feeding our soul with positive affirmations we can live a life that puts us at peace. Once we are at peace our ego will be stroked and at rest; once aligned we will be fulfilled. Allowing our egos to drive us mad does a disservice to ourselves. Let’s do ourselves a favor and let go of our egos and become guided by your soul and allow ego to back seat ride.

Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose  

Who’s Who Doesn’t Define You!!!!!!!

Why has it become a taboo for people; black people in particular to support one another? This is a question I have seen floating around social media for quit some time in regards to Black Owned Businesses. However, I would like to take the question a step further. Why are we not supportive of one anothers  life endeavors period? Without turning it into a competition where everyone has to be compared. Whether it be private life, relationships, goals, etc. When someone makes an effort to do what makes them happy criticism/judgement will follow. However, it shouldn’t be from those who are considered “family”. When a person decides to follow their dreams and take an authentic path; accusing them of trying to be like someone else and down playing what they are trying to accomplish can be discouraging. Especially when it was meant to be a form of criticism to put them down. One may argue and say, ” Well if it’s something I do not agree with I’m going to let them know.” or ” Not everything deserves to be supported.” Touche!

Envy a word that doesn’t get used a lot.  Perhaps because we think, ” Who would want to be envious of me?” or ” Why would I be envious of them?”  And I agree with you; WHY?! It’s ridiculous right? In actuality we would be surprised if we knew how many people talked about us in a envious way. Many people will never admit that they are envious of someone. Today gossiping about others, sharing things people trusted you with, and making assumptions has become second nature within our community. Envy can have many faces from being shady to insecure. It can entail longing for something one may have while distancing yourself from that person do to feeling out of place. Even criticizing what you do yet wanting that very thing.  One could also be good friend while attempting to “steal their thunder”. Oftentimes you will never know that someone is envious of you until things hit the fan. Also, being envious often time has nothing to do with a person possessions, status, or looks. Some people long for a support system and/or attention. We all have come across people who either have nothing positive to say or they’re playing a game of keeping up with the Jones’s. It is as though they always find something to pick at, criticize, maybe even belittle or down play your efforts.  Meanwhile trying to “catch up”; doing what some may consider the most to receive attention or praises. Perhaps we find that we are the one of those people.

Before going to far let’s look at the definition of Envy:

a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck.

desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable attribute belonging to (someone else).
Turning ENVY into an acronym makes the word even juicier.

E.N.V.Y

EXTERNAL. NAIVE. VARIATIONAL. YEARNING

       When we are envious of someone we often times only see things from one perspective. We rarely see the hardships others go through. Envy is only based on what we see; which is why I created the acronym you see above. Viewing other live from one perspective means we don’t have the proper knowledge makes us naive in our assumptions. We truly do not know that persons reality until we take a walk in their shoes from past to present to obtain a clear understanding. The way envy looks varies depending on who each person is as well as what that person is longing for. We have all seen movies about people who we’re envious of another person. These movies may give us an idea of how some people do some pretty crazy things to get what they were yearning for or to make the other person lose all that they have. When we feel envy towards someone it is a good idea to take a look inward and ask ourselves,“What are you longing for?” Is is money that we want ultimately? Love, attention, to have an influence on peoples lives? Or to have power? Are we willing to compromise who we truly are to be like this person? Most importantly is this person a positive influence in my life? Are they of importance? We all can admit to meeting someone who seems to have it all together and admiring them. But, how do we know when that has turned to envy? When  has it gone too far? Often times we subconsciously have thoughts about a person that tear down our own self-esteem. We hold those people to a higher standard than ourselves. In doing this we may be trying to channel that persons energy; your actions become driven by  the thought of “being more like them”or better. The feeling of insecurity or inferiority fuels your fire; rather than what motivates you or makes you happy. That person whom you once admired has become your enemy, competition, and PROBLEM.* Keeping in mind competition and inspiration are two different things*
     Today it seems taboo to admire someone and have a role model due to everyone being in competition. Having someone to look to for inspiration and motivation is healthy. We frequently need motivation outside of ourselves and daily lives to pull from. However, that person should not be your only go to. Admiring someone can easily become an obsession. This may cause you to loose yourself in the blink of an eye. Our wants at times can be superficial maybe even one sided at times. We have all fallen victim of getting caught up in what we see on social media and our favorite reality shows. Subconsciously  we may find ourselves emulating what we see; some aspiring to be one of those stars. Other times we may be mimicking what we see on purpose for attention; forgetting that we are only seeing what we are allowed to see. We may have that one friend who seems to have it all. It’s almost as though she lives the life we see on social media or TV. However, we may never truly know the sacrifices that person has made or the hardships they may be facing.
There was a point in my life were I based my life on all materialistic wants. I wanted the flashy lavish lifestyle with the clothes and man to match. It got to the point where I would find myself saying, ” I have an image to uphold.” As if I had to impress everyone I encountered. Everything felt so forced; it got to a point where I asked myself what am I trying to prove. Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with having nice things and looking nice. It is the intent behind it; is it for you or to keep up. I found myself stuck somewhere  in the middle. I love looking nice however at times I would feel uncomfortable; I didn’t feel like myself.  
     Let’s keep in mind this way of thinking doesn’t come over night as we sit in our dorm rooms planning outfits for the party tonight. This starts from childhood; take a look at the kids today. Everyone is watching reality TV including the youth. It is as though we are trying to live up to the standards of people we do not know. What we consume daily we do become in every way, shape, or form. As we continue to watch these shows we find ourselves wanting a piece of that that life in some way.  Maybe, we want to dress like them or have a similar life style. Think about the kids watching this and how their childhood shifts dramatically. In addition to reality TV, they attend schools where everyone wants to be the “it” person. It is as though everyone is trying to emulate who they watched the night before. Middle and high school students are being encouraged to envy one another and be in constant competition. Adults and children alike are belittling one another passing judgement as we try to all live similar superficial lives we see on TV. Everyone is accused of being a hater, copy cat, etc; as we all fall into the same trap. Granted each life style and circle is different; however it  doesn’t excuse the fact that we do not get to see what truly goes on behind the scenes.  As we move further into adulthood many people want to be known or famous for something. This leads to the question what do you want to be known for? Often times this causes the feeling of envy to creep in due to  people feeling as though they are in a competition to be the “next big thing” on scene.
    Often times we confuse envy and jealousy thinking they mean the same thing. However, they are opposites that can go  hand in hand depending on the situation. Envy is indeed wanting something another person has. Jealousy is being protective of something another person may be trying to take. This feeling is brought on when we feel threatened by someone. Yes you can be both; one feeling may bring on the other.
We may be envious of a persons personality or aura and feel they may be trying to take your friend. Your friendship in your eyes is now threatened which makes you are jealous.

Some may even argue that jealously steams from envy. Envy has no age restrictions and it is not gender specific. Anyone whether an elder or peer, boss or parent, sister or boyfriend can be envious. One can even be envious of a hobby you may have. We are emotional beings and many things can pull out vast array of emotions. We forget who we are the minute we feel we are in a competition. Who another person is may not align with who we are deep within. We find ourselves in a rat race to out do someone we may or may not know; neglecting the signs that we are in contradiction with our hearts desires. No one tells us, “just because we see someone excelling in life in one way doesn’t mean that is our purpose in life as well.” We do not have to be like someone else to be great. Yes, many people have similar passions. However, how can you turn that into something that embodies everything that you stand for? Adding our own flavor to something we love is what sets us apart. Envy is what I would call “eye begging”. We see something and then we have to have it. It helps to practice asking ourselves, “Is it for us?” Envy clouds our vision causing us to walk outside of our purpose. Follow your souls cravings; do what makes you happy putting your soul at peace. Once we defy our soul we inflict pain on ourselves. Living in chaos and confusion could be the karma we bring on ourselves walking outside of our purpose. Living the life of someone else could land us in dead in jobs that bring us little to no happiness.  And having superficial wants may bring superficial relationships as well. When we find ourselves playing catch up with another person out of envy  are we as happy as that person? What is meant for someone else may not be meant for you.

 Another person success doesn’t define our success. We are live different lives; timing is different for each of use. Success and love look different for each of us. As humans we will always feel some type of way. Remembering what is meant for us will be no matter what will bring us back each time.
Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose 

Free Yourself

How I Let Go? 

Truth is I am still letting go. This is a 24/7 – 365 process that comes with many lessons to learn. For starters I separated myself to allow me the time to evaluate what no longer served me. I became okay with being alone with my thoughts in pure silence. Meditating daily allowed the most high to talk to me clearly. I expressed my emotions freely through writing and verbally to cleanse myself of what I was holding on to. I let those things be once expressed and become grateful for the small victories. I  started asking myself, What is bothering me? What am I holding on to?  and Why? Can I change them? and How? I gave attention to  my strengths as well as  my weaknesses. Giving myself the time to master my strengths and  show care to my weaknesses. In this I began to face my fears; pushing myself to face challenges that I would normally over react to or avoid all together. I allowed myself to cry, to be free, and to do the unthinkable. In doing all of these things I was freeing myself.    

Holding on causes more pain than the act letting go it self. We are allowing ourselves to relive those past encounters without realizing it.The more you hold on to things the more pain your are allowing to creep in; allowing that negative energy to stick with us. In doing this we give other people our power and energy.  In return we lose our peace of mind as well as our health. All energy is connected to our bodily functions; hence why people say you will worry yourself to death. This is a true statement that is taken very lightly. Holding grudges will take a toll on you mentally, physically, and spiritually if we are not  mindful. As we hold grudges we begin to live out those emotions attracting what we believe. The minute we make the conscious decision to hold on to the past in anyway is the minute we lose ourselves. We slowly lose touch with who we truly are as we give our energy to something other than ourselves. In return we slowly become the very thing we despise.

Life is about taking the good with the bad.  At times things may seem as though they won’t let up yet something good always comes in the end. If we do not learn to let go we will find ourselves hold on to a lifetime supply of baggage as well as ailments that may effect us for the rest of our lives. When looking at the causes of not letting go of things at the base is fear. Considering that we only have 2 emotions at the core ” Love” and Fear”; all other emotions steam from one or the other. Fear of getting hurt again will effect our daily interactions crippling us as we begin to usefear as a crutch. We create situations of “what if” as the excuse for why we can’t do things. This is unconsciously allowing fear to control our lives. When holding on to anger we may experience lack of sleep as well as anxiety.  When we lose sleep our judgement can become clouded; the act of holding on to things makes that triple in effect. Limiting what we can and can not do, where we can and can not go, and perhaps creating phobias we never had. Our grudges begin to dictate our present and future. This may begin to take a toll on ones social life if we are not careful. We may being to treat others differently based on what someone else has done. We may hold something another person has done over everybody’s head. Allowing that negative energy to be transferred to others around you.  Other effects of holding on may be depression that is linked to loneliness and we run the risk of resenting others. The outcome is we hurt ourselves and possibly others as we try and protect ourselves.

Aside from the emotional damage we cause ourselves, there are physical ailments that can sneak up on us. When we are not in tune with our bodies we are unaware of how our bodies respond to stress. Our emotions have the potential of making us sick or keeping us healthy. If we find that we are often times upset or stressed we may find ourselves in the hospital for a major illness.  No matter the action or reaction it is a form of stress on the body causing it to break down. Each body part is connected to an emotions and/or stress sensor; when exhausted your body will send you a sign in the form of pain or ailment. Our immune system may break down as well when we are overwhelmed. Being cognizant of the way we react to negativity and what we focus our energy on may relieve some of the pain and subside any common colds or ailments we may have.

Here are some common ailments, pains and diseases and connections to be mindful of;

  • Elevated blood pressure
    • accumulation of emotional problems
    • stress
  • Stroke
    • not being allowed to deal with own emotions
  • Migranes
    • Fear or Stress
  • Back Pains
    • Lower Back
      • Inability to see a way out.
      • Strong feelings of guilt and self-hatred.
      • Difficulties in communicating.
    • Sacrum
      • Stubbornly holding on to old anger. Feelings of powerlessness and loss of power.
    • Tail Bone
      • Blaming oneself, holding on to that which no longer serves the self, being out of balance with oneself, “sitting on old pain.”

Honesty Hour:

Giving meditation a try guided me to the answers I may have been ignoring as well as those couldn’t find. No one else can help you find the solution to the problem but YOU. However, someone can guide you through the situations as a helping and healing hand. The truth hurts and no one likes inflicting pain on themselves; but I had to be honest with myself as I let things go. Everyone hates letting go of things that they are emotional attachmented to even if it causes pain. There was a period of my life where I was ANGRY and my body suffered do to my emotional reactions. I had to realize I was forcing myself to live in the past. In doing this I found myself back tracking to old habits and relationships that caused me emotional and internal damage * heart pains and chest discoloration*;  I even found my immune system weakening. Life is what we make it; I realizing lessons come around often to insure we have learned our lesson. Often times we need to test our growth spiritually and mentally because our reactions shape what the future holds for us. Being real with yourself involves showing yourself compassion above all because everyone makes mistakes. Yet, we must hold ourselves accountable allowing ourselves to make the necessary changes to grow. When we accept change we are able to experience all that life has to offer. This involved detaching myself from somethings to make space for what was to come. I had to set boundaries for myself to remember to put ME first. Having that alone time to recharge and think clearly; evaluating things I have done and the goals I have accomplished . In doing this I am able to merge the past, present, and future. Learning from my past insures I do not make the same mistakes. Keeping relationships with people who are growing and evolving yet setting boundaries for myself to keep myself grounded at all times and maintaining my focus. Staying in the present moment and appreciating all that takes place. Watching for the lessons that can be learned, being cognizant of signs that I have grown, and remembering to do all things in love. I try to be mindful of where I go to ensure it is an environment with the right vibes. If we view all things in a negative light; that will show in our daily activities and functions. I am in no way saying life will be all rainbows. But, we can all create our own rainbows and sunshine.

 

Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose 

Easing The Grievance

2016 has been ruthless for many of us. It has been a year of transition, hardship, and DEATH. While observing and talking to others this year I noticed this has been a pretty significant cycle for many . The universe has a funny way of preparing you for things if you pay close attention. Death has reached it’s peek in this life cycle; leaving me to bury 4 family members. My season of death began at the beginning of summer when I buried my uncle and concluded with me burying my cousin. In August I lost a precious jewel within my family; my grandmother Rose Mary.  With my grandmother being my final grandparent  laid to rest I noticed there was deeper meaning to this season I was in .  Knowing I was never one to grieve easy I allowed myself space and time to gather my thoughts; in doing this I gained the clarity and peace I needed. This season of death was not just about laying loved ones to rest there was a bigger picture; lessons were meant to be learned. It took me a while to realize the time had come for me to shed layers of myself that I no longer needed that were holding me back. People, lifestyles, habits, and our way of thinking are all things we have to  reevaluate from time to time

    Burying my uncle was the beginning  of my season of death. I made a vow to myself early on to not wear my feelings on my shoulders but rather  take time to deal internally. This was my time to put that into practice. After burying my uncle I noticed my life began to  take a downward spiral slowly. Things began falling apart at the seams; communication was the key for coping through this summer. The most high was truly sending me through things I always said I could never deal with. Financially in bind, looking for a new place, working, dance rehearsals, and in summer school * commuting 200 miles each day*.  Adding an ill grandmother, a mother undergoing surgery, and adding deceased relatives to my equation was recipe for me to throw in the towel.  I often felt as though I cried more than I smiled.  Each time I cried I was cleansing my soul; giving myself room to refocus my energy. I realized early  on that tears heal wounds. During this time I tried to be a little more open about my life events. In grieving I  realized it helps to be open; death is something everyone has to experience. In knowing this you tend to be more understanding. In being open I gave myself time to heal. With everything taking place I was tired, hurting, and tired of hurting. I made it a point to remain grounded; I always found time to detach from everything and everyone to clear my head. Setting small goals for myself gave me head space to not solely focus on the bad surrounding me.In clearing my space I realized that death is not the end. This year was truly a year of the big picture. It was as though each death came with a lesson; letting go was the title of this chapter in my life. I found my self learning to let go of people, things holding me back, my mentality, and grudges. All a test of my faith and growth.  I  found my self letting go of people that were only seasonal in my life. I was always afraid of losing friends; being left with a sense of regret as though it was all my fault. Even within long term relationships I would lose myself trying to keep that person. I had to learn that people come into your life to teach you a lesson. Not everyone is meant to come into your life and stay; being open to the aspect of freedom starts and ends with self. Being free involves allowing others to freely come and go, knowing when to let go, and detaching from situations that no longer serve you. This also meant freeing myself of old habits that would not benefit me as I grow; as well as detaching myself from individuals that were on a different wavelength as me. Often times we pick up bad habits from our peers without realizing it. That includes others  mentality, vernacular, and sometimes even goals.  This begins a form of grouping thinking were everyone has common goals along with the same game plan of how to obtain those things. When this happens we may be blocking blessings from entering our lives; whether it be opportunities, love, careers, etc. Letting go of bad habits is often times just as hard as letting go of people because we have to acknowledge the bad habits before we can break them. The misconception that those habits are in someway benefiting us is not the root but the catalyst to our bad habits.

      Letting go of things that were holding me back. The root to accomplishing this for me was getting my mentality in check. Being a worry wart I had the tendency to speak the worst into existence or overthinking myself into a situation I initially feared would take place. This process was by far the hardest to let go of; that fact of the matter is you can think yourself in and out of situations all day. I found myself learning to take things day by day. Concurring each day is the name of the game. Plan for the future while mastering each day; allowing each day you have gone through to be the stepping stone to a brighter future. While taking my life a day at a time I realized I could no longer give credit to others for the misfortunes or even the high points in my life. When things go sour in our lives we have a tendency to point the finger others. In reality the only person we can truly blame is ourselves. This began the transition of let go of letting others be the reason I couldn’t do something or the reason I chose to engage in other things. In doing this I found myself no longer seeking the approval of others. I began to take more pride in being who am, gaining the self confidence I was lacking, and seeking counsel only for major decisions. If we really want things to work out for our best interest and have all the things we dream of the power is with in us. We just have to stop looking for the approval of others and following the vision of another person; only to then put the blame on them when things do not go as we envisioned. Following our own vision is the best thing we could ever do. What If It All Works Out?! Pushing my fears aside allowed me to be open to many opportunities. The harmful thing about wondering what if is there is always a negative following behind. It is almost as though we are speaking our fears into manifestation. Letting your fears go leaves zero room for you to revisit the past. We often have things from our past that haunt us which shapes our way of thinking. Those harmful things from our past manifest themselves in the present as our fears; which hold us back. Letting go of the past for me also meant Letting Go Of Holding Grudges. Having a grudge does us more damage than we could ever imagine. Fear is a tricky thing to let go of because it can manifest it self in so many forms. Holding a grudge is nothing more than fear having a strong hold on your entire life. We hold grudges to protect us from getting hurt yet we are hurting ourselves.

Imagine holding on to something for dear life due to fear of falling, something breaking, etc. After a while holding on to it seems to be the cause of your hand hurting because you’re holding on too tight. When we hold a grudge we prevent ourselves from moving forward in any direction due to the situation replaying in our minds. We shut people out, we are mean on our jobs, overly sensitive, over reactive, judgmental, and the list could go on. This is because holding a grudge is holding on to all of the negative emotions that person brought on.

      I can’t move on, I’m hurt, It’s easier said than done!! Often times we can’t move forward because we don’t want to; not because we can’t. Understand that you didn’t expect a person you care for to cross you in a wrong manner; honor that mentality and do not do it to another person. Break the cycle and focus on good karma.  Overstand that you can not expect nothing from anybody but yourself; you can only monitor what you do. Having expectation leaves room for disappointments and pain your life stops for no one. Holding a grudge means you life is now in neutral due to the actions of another; the incident  will come back around. And Innerstand that you must be present and observant. We have an intuition as well as instincts that allow us to sense things before they happen. Get in tune with yourself and your surroundings things can be avoided. While holding something over one persons head have you ever noticed how it is held over everyone’s head? We being to project that negativity onto others which clouds our judgement. We often set expectations for people holding them to too high of a standard forgetting we all make mistakes. Setting expectations for ourselves and abiding by them is solely how we will attract what is meant for us. No one knows you better than you. The power of change lies within; holding on to things places that power in the hands of others. I could no longer be bound to the things that held me down. Feeling stuck is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy due the fact that it could really test your mental state. Grieving and stress were my triggers for depression and anxiety; I would sit in my room and cry listening to sad music until I fell asleep just to do it do it all over again.  I use to  panic, cry, and think myself into a hell hole. But this time in the  mist of  hurting I was healing. Remaining busy became a coping mechanism for me to check myself and not get caught up in the madness. I was doing things that I loved; dancing and helping people allowed me to balance my emotions . Seeing others happy and hearing their stories motivated me to keep going. Keeping my rituals was a must and during these hard times I saw how essential they were for my healing. My montras’ are what guided me through each day and settled me at night. I listened more and became observant of everything around me. I grew more present and connected. During times of high stress I tend to eat less and when I do eat it’s sweets; yet I found myself eating healthier balancing my meals and taking the initiative to workout. I tried my best to continue my morning rituals to get my day started and proceeded with my daily routines without checking out and calling it quiets.

       Coming to these different realizations was a true test of my faith and strength. I was more grounded than I had ever been; I found myself in deep prayer/meditation numerous times a day to block out the noise surrounding me. I know during times of turmoil, grief, and/or transition you go for what you know; going into survival mode. This makes it easy for us to go back to old habits that may lead us back to square one. I cried more than average in my alone time because I felt lost 90% of the time with no way out. I was angry, confused, and at my wits end. It was as though The Most High was breaking me down to get my attention. Asking my parents for help was the toughest nail to swallow. For the first time in a while they had seen me reach a breaking point. I WAS HURTING! To learn to grieve I had to learn to cope and allow my perspective to shift. The dynamics for getting over this hurdle were very different for me. This summer I went through stages with each death I encountered; I watched myself change mentally and spiritually. My way of thinking took a major turn which allowed me to have a better understanding of life. With this came a different reaction to situations I may encounter. I often would wear my feelings on my shoulders; forcing me to push people away or even gain sympathy without people truly knowing what was taking place in my life. Neither of the two I really wanted considering I truly dislike attention unless it’s truly earned. In my times of meditation I found that I was truly freeing myself from old ways of merely existing. Death was present in my life as a time for rebirth. It was time for me to heal internally and externally. This season of death was a call to transcend and truly live. My mind body and soul was cleansed to make way for growth. Letting go is a continual process however it gets easier along the way.

Cc: Kevin Bussey

Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose 

Give Love

When giving advice have you ever caught yourself speaking out of pure regret?

I have always wondered why do we give advice based on what we wouldn’t or couldn’t do. It’s almost as though we unknowingly make others follow our same mistakes.

Have you almost let someone talk you out of following your dream? Knowing that you have a gift that could not only change your life but potential others as well; you share it with someone and they instantly throw negativity into the equation leaving you questioning an alternative route?

I had that happen to me and I almost let them talk me off of my path. In free flowing, I mention listening to over, under, and innerstand to take something beneficial away; applying it to your situation. When listening to the advice given to me one thing stood out to me, ” I regret letting someone talk me out off……..”. I couldn’t quite understand why anyone would want to do to the next person what was done to them.

Whether we are seeking advice or giving advice we can not compare our life to the next persons. When it comes to advice the goal should be to remain neutral because we can only respond based off of two things; personal experience and the perspective we have on the situation. The conclusion is based off of our own personal judgment. Advice can act as a double edge sword if we do not choose our  words wisely and be active listeners.When speaking to others giving love and not judgment is key. Allow your personal experience to be a guide of lessons learned throughout your journey; rather than list of don’ts. An opportunity to give advice is an opportunity to speak to our younger self. When speaking it is important to not only speak to the other persons soul but to ours as well. We should always ask ourselves, ” What would I tell myself” or ” What do I wish someone would’ve told me”. Wisdom is knowing that everyone has a different path but the obstacles do not change. Regretting an obstacle from our past that got the best of you gives it the power to manifest in another persons life. Obstacles aren’t limited to hardships or stress; they can come in the form of distractions.Whether the distraction is a bad habit or a person living with those regrets can keep one stuck in neutral. Creating this comfort zone for yourself in return. Fear of the unknown dwells within this comfort zone along with the question ” What if”.

What if I would’ve?

What if it’s too late?

What if I fail? 

These are the question that are often asked when filled with regret. Very seldom do we ask ourselves ” What if I try and succeed?”. Those that do often do succeed and raise the bar; the few that fail can say they tried. In trying you gain experience and wisdom you can pass down to others; taking something away as a learning experience to apply to another situation. Upon giving advice based off of regret that energy is poured into the next person; leaving them with second thoughts.Life as we know it is a continues cycle allowing events to reoccur until a lesson it learned. Nothing in nature is living for the sole benefit of itself. It is our duty to help one another through life anyway we see fit. Life is full of lessons when the universe teaches you something share that lesson with others.

One thing I have learned is to observe the positive and the negative aspects of my experience. This helps me come up with a conclusion that is conducive in any situation. This allows me to give advice that has the capability to be timeless without being bias. I also realized giving advice is a reflection of a persons soul; their way of thinking is shown in terms of what they got out a particular situation. When giving advice we have to be careful what we project onto the next person so that we will not force our way of thinking onto them. Words can get lost in time and translation we must be sure to speak from a light heart, peace of mind, and anchored soul. Advice is meant to be a beacon of light in someone dark tunnel. The words we choose can either make their vision foggy or more clear. Live in light and be light.

Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose 

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Have You Seen Em?!

ROSE HOW DO I KNOW I’VE MET MY TWIN FLAME?!

A twin flame connection is a feeling like no other. When you meet your twin flame you will feel it; especially if you are conscious and aware of elements around you. This is not a sexual feeling or emotional; it is a sense of euphoria as if you have known them forever. Almost like you have met them before. Many of us get soulmate and twin flames confused but the differences are very distinct. The differences may even help you recognize if you have already met your twin flame; if not it may open your eyes for when that time comes. One of the key indicators of meeting a twin flame is the natural desire to nurture and care for them. There is a deep love and respect for one another; the spirit of growth and support is high. Verses a soul mate relationship that has the potential to be personally traumatic; soulmates aren’t always harmonious they can be very detrimental to ones spirit.

Soulmate relationships can be defined or fueled by great sex; when you met your twin soul sex is merely a huge plus. You both have a strong sense of purpose; when twin flames come together it is to bring a spiritual gift into the universe. Twin Flames  feel they were brought together for a higher purpose and many of their gifts and traits will complement each other. Soulmate relationships are meant for you to experience a sense of personal growth through life lessons; which is why we attract soul mates at different stages of our life. Often times soulmates experience a period of separation. This maybe because one doesn’t want to deal with the karma their soulmate brings through lessons or there purpose has be served. Soulmates have no promise of entering back into your life once there has been a separation.This is because once your soul mate has taught you a lesson and you have learned what there is to be learned the two of you are free to go your separate ways. Having many soulmates gives room for them to enter in at times in our lives where a lesson is to be learned making some soul mates seasonal. When your twin flame enters your life it is at the most random or opportune times; often symbolic. Twin Souls once brought together cannot be torn apart. Twin Flames are highly aware they are here for a higher purpose and understand the importance of honoring and carrying out their union.They have a heightened intuition allowing the two to communicate with one another in any and every way. You can feel each other even when you’re apart and often times will experience synchronicity. From calling when the other is thinking about you, being sick, or simply not in the highest of spirits as the same time. One may even feel when something just isn’t right. Often times a hug from your twin flame gives you all the energy and motivation you need to get through the day.

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Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose 
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Growing Pains

This summer has been such a doozy. It seems like everyone has been having a tough time. And with so much going on in the world lately; how do you encourage someone when you’re going through a rough patch yourself ( With no signs of letting up)? The pressures of life can often be so overwhelming that we feel as though there is no way out. It’s almost as if everywhere we’ve turned a door is being shut and none of our plans are following through. I like to call these situations Growing Pains. I’d like to ask this question. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, ” What if my plans aren’t what the universe has in store for me?” Often times we get so caught up in what we planned on doing that we miss out on golden opportunities. Pain can also act as an indicator that we are not living our lives to our full potential and purpose. We often have to let go of somethings in order to grow; whether it may be old habits or our way of thinking. That is up to us to discover. The art of silence allows us the space for clarity to see things through.

Gaining clarity and peace is a self seeking and rewarding gift that keeps on giving. The art of silence can be broken down into 3 simple steps; Seclude, Listen, and Create.

Seclusion: allows you time to tame your thoughts and unmask yourself. You get to cleanse yourself of toxic thoughts, people, and energy that is consuming you. (Going on a fast or detox may be a good idea if you have found yourself indulging in reckless eating habits.) Being secluded puts you in the place you need to be to align with the heavens. Talking to The Creator and setting intentions over your life allows you to speak into the universe.

Listening: allows you to learn life lessons. This grants you the ability to overstand the position you are in now and what must be done to press forward. You begin to innerstand; learning more about you is the name of the game. God made us in his image. Finding what it is that sets you apart will give you the spark you need to see things through. Once you have set aside time for yourself you can sit back and watch the seeds you have sown blossom.

Creating: allows you to set your plans in motion. Create the life you deserve; if you have envisioned yourself in a place turn that into a reality. Set small goals for yourself to obtain weekly and monthly. Pace yourself for what The Most High is about to bestow upon you. This gives you time to transform into who you truly are and become a beacon of light. Envision it, Speak it, Write it, Create it.

We have heard the rich old saying Beauty is Pain. However, have we taken the time to see the beauty in pain? Pain allows you to realize your true strength. Many times we express how much we can’t take but the universe has a way of testing our full capabilities from day to day. In doing this you find yourself; you experience a season of growth in the mist of chaos.  Beauty is pain may apply to the harsh realities we encounter as we come into our Higher Self. Often times things are revealed to us as we grow. We begin to see people and situations for who or what they really are as our frequency rise. We all have an intuition; if the vibe is not right we trust that instinct and know something is wrong. As you grow you your light will shine brighter and you will spark the light inside of others. Growth is contagious.

Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose 

Free Flowing

Do you have plans that you just can’t seem to put into fruition?  Maybe you are about to make a life changing decision and you’re just not quite sure yet? Or you feel stuck in a situation that don’t know how to get out of?

These are all things that put us in the head space to seek advice. When something unexpected takes place in our lives often times without thinking we seek the counsel of others (It never fails) . But, do we ever take the allotted time we need to weigh our options and look at our situation with a fresh pair of eyes? Often times seeking advice does more hurt than help depending on the circumstances. Every situation doesn’t require a council  to discuss your next step; we shouldn’t tell our every move or let it be known every time we going through a tough time. It makes room for distractions leaving our mind more cluttered than before. We often forget everyone has their own individual journey; we can only go off what we see and what is told to us. By comparing ourselves make the mistake of putting ourselves in a box.

 When it comes to advice the goal should be to remain neutral because we can only respond based off of two things; personal experience and the perspective we have on the situation. The conclusion is based off of our own personal judgment. Really try to take what the person is saying at base value, ask questions, and try to dig deep within for answers . This way you find yourself free flowing through a great conversation and you are getting to know your friend and yourself.Often times when people seek advice it is because they don’t know how to think outside the box they are currently in. Deep down inside we all know what is best for us; it is just the means of: How do we tackle that without letting the fear of the unknown consume me?

When we place ourselves in a box this blurs our vision and cripples us in the long run.We get so caught up in the comparing stage and begin resenting the advice we sought after. *Why* because things don’t seem to be looking the way  we envisioned. When we are receiving advice it is always best that we listen to over and innerstand ; not to respond. It’s always a great idea to take away little nuggets of wisdom that will help you along the way. And the best part is you decide what those nuggets are so it is important to listen and choose wisely what will stick with you. Often times we miss great points because we want to negate what is being said. We have the tendency of not taking the advice we needed to hear because we feel they don’t understand us; or spend to much time trying to plead the case of why we can’t verses finding reasons why we can. But, where is this way of thinking coming from? Who have you sought advice from in the past that you are stuck in a box you think you can’t bust out of? Seeking advice should be evaluated on the bases of what we are going through, what we need to hear (not want), and who has gone through this successfully. The best part of life is being able to flow freely.

Who says you have to fit yourself into a box? Who says you have to follow someones advice word for word or even at all? You are not obligated to fit yourself into a box, to explain yourself, to tell your every move, to remain in the position you are currently in, to be the same person you were yesterday, or last year. When we evaluate our situation (and decide maybe we do need some guidance) we should go to someone who can tell us what we need to hear to keep souring to new heights. We must continue to grow and seek the truths to our light so that we can be a light. Growth is knowing that any person we encounter can be a teacher; however following our own path and knowing how to pick jewels of wisdom is also a major key.

Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose

Rushing to Death!!!!

For as long as I can remember I have always hated being rushed, something about it just truly makes me uneasy. When I do things at a steady pace it seems to turn out just right and I even get to learn something in the process. June has been such a stressful, busy month, and it seems like everyone is in such a rush. It’s almost as if everything is falling apart and no one seems to be themselves these days. Of course, when things aren’t going as planned it’s easy to go into instant panic mode. Although, I’m not one to say things are falling apart; things are merely falling into place in my perspective. Even if we can’t see it now because of our current situations, we just have to practicing the art of patience.

I am slowly learning to practice the art of patience and the fact of the matter is I had ZERO!!!!! Being raised as an only child you naturally gain the Burger King complex of having it your way at all times. But, everyone should know by now that is unhealthy and often times very unnecessary. Normally when people are in a rush it is because they have an ideal  plan which needs to get done ASAP. The only problem is there is no room for suggestions, alterations, or adjustments. Nothing or no one can get in the way of your plan, well that’s perfect however, you can get in the way of YOU. When we get in a rush we can often be on a fast track to our own self destruction without even realizing it. We can be our own blinders; setting an unreasonable pace for ourselves. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself: WHAT’S THE RUSH (insert your name here)? No? Maybe it’s because we spend so much time consulting with our counsel of friends. Or we could merely be listening to their issues and ways of thinking, trying them on, and often times taking them on as our own. The interesting thing is we are all different; I started realizing one persons way of thing may not work for me. Everyone’s path is different and that is what makes each journey unique; we can always learn from one another but it is up to us to pick and choose what we take away from each lesson.

Some of us have the tendency to compare our lives to someone else; creating the game of Keeping Up With The Jones’. This does nothing but create negative vibes within ourselves and an excessive amounts of pressure. This is why it isn’t always a great idea to consult with our counsel of friends before consulting with ourselves. When we take time out for ourselves we obtain a clearer vision of what we need to do verses what we want to do. Many of us are ALWAYS in a rush; a rush to get somewhere, get a job, a house, a significant other, and a rush to get out of a situation to jump head first into another. Rushing is the key ingredient to chaos. It leads to a sea of unplanned accidents or situations with no silver lining of a way out. We make poorly thought out decisions based off of an unreasonable pace we feel we must obtain; which clouds our vision and way of thinking. As I took a step back, I realized moving in a hast is a result of baggage we carry with us. Often times we are running from things we aren’t ready to face or simply just do not want to deal with. Let’s ask ourselves this: HOW CAN WE GROW IF WE DON’T CONFRONT THOSE DEMONS? OK, maybe you aren’t running from anything……What are you holding on to? Often times we have a tendency to hold on to people because we want to help them, we’re afraid of loosing that friendship, or they’re a loyal friend. As we all look at ourselves let’s ask ourselves one last question: HOW ARE YOU GOING TO GROW IF YOU DON’T LET GO?

We all know you can’t help anyone until we help ourselves. Bringing someone else along for a journey we aren’t ready for mentally, physically, or spiritually would not only be doing them a disservice; but most importantly ourselves. Everyone isn’t meant to be a part of your journey in life; often times they are meant to teach you a lesson and move on. Some may serve the purpose of bringing complete chaos, to lift the veil from over your eyes, and reveal to you the type of people you don’t need in your life. And others are just leches; (What are you talking about Rose?) You ever notice whenever you are doing well, seems like everything is back in line, and then that one person pops up with more issues than you can carry……on top of what you are dealing with. They’re an amazing asset to your life friend wise but they always seem to suck you dry in some way; just one big sweet as sweet potato pie lech. It’s almost as though they always need something and it ends up inconveniencing you in a major way. You want to help them but it’s almost as though they aren’t ready to take the proper steps to help themselves. Time and time again life shows you there is no way you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves. Often times the people we hold on too have the power to weigh us down because we give them that much power. Taking a step back to get ourselves in line gives room and clarity to evaluate how we should properly deal with the company we keep. Time and situations reveal who our real friends are as well and if they serve a significant purpose in your life . ( This in no way means start charging your friends up or just start cutting people of left and right) It means take time to replay major situations in your life whether good or bad and evaluate the roles played by each person in your life during those times. If you measure the loyalty of friendship by the amount of time spent verses the quality, stability, and peace somethings may need to be evaluated within yourself. Sometimes we spend to much time with who may be more toxic than we realize; we don’t always have someone around or talk to someone daily. Everyone needs an escape; an outlet away from people every now and then to reevaluate the ups and down,the comings and goings that life may bring.

Sometimes it takes letting go of things to make room for patience to allow your life to become full circle. I like to believe patience is a sign of becoming complete so you can enjoy this journey of life. Patience is truly a virtue ; it allows you to see the beauty in things we once ignored or seen as waste of time. Some may not agree with me (looking back at the old me I wouldn’t have agreed). But there is true beauty in the art of patience. You allow yourself time…….. everyone deserves time even YOU. Patience gives us time to properly plan what it is exactly we need to do, what we want out of life, goals (reasonable ones), and we can evaluate our current situations. We even get to weigh our options, consult with ourselves, and God. Laying everything out on the table observing where we were and where we are; mapping out where we are going. One thing I try to keep in mind is leaving room for God. Although, We like to have things all figured out God has a way of slightly moving things around. Always leave room for God to push through. The universe has a way of working things out for the betterment of your Spiritual growth and journey; never ignore or put off the master plan you’ll miss the big picture. Seeing things for what they really are is what you gain when you practice patience.

All of this is easier said than done; it takes deep soul searching and cleansing. We have to do away with things we are accustomed to, to allow true growth. Many of us are afraid of change when we should be afraid of being stuck in neutral. Without patience we will all be in a constant rush into a break wall getting nowhere fast. Never deprive anyone of their time, allow them the time to grow, allow yourself time to learn, and allow others the time to breath. Without this many of us will push people away because we are too heavy ; constantly rushing is a burden. Pack light, be light, and live in light. Worrying and rushing go hand in hand; take the time break down what you are worrying about and you will find the answer to your problems. You can get in the way of YOU; when you take the proper time to yourself God reveals all things with……..perfect timing. Patience is Key.

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CC: Ig @Spiritualtwin11

Peace and Blessing,
My thoughts my views, Share with me, vibe with me
– Rose